Shopaholism is a modern disease of the 21st century, we keep buying more and more not paying much attention to the fact whether a given item is the thing we truly need or not. I’ve also been affected by this disease, despite the fact I’ve tried to overcome my weakness and turn it into my personal success. Oh well, I’m not a total shopaholic yet, although I always try to look for bargains, things which in my subjective opinion are unique and match to the person I’ve become, as I wasn’t always myself from 2019. What am I talking about? Well, to be exact about fashion and clothes!
In the past I wasn’t really interested much in what I was wearing, I also didn’t know how to choose proper pieces of clothing. One cannot also forget that prices in the shops are often quite high and despite the fact that chain stores frequently bombard us with super bargains and sales, it happens that we can’t always find there the stuff we need at a particular time … it’s at least so in my case. A few years ago it was hard for me to find something right for myself at the markets, not to mention second-hand shops, whose phenomenon I simply couldn’t understand at that time. Everything changed around two years ago, when I regained a slightly better body and I lost some extra weight, which in turn made my self-confidence boost by at least 100%, although I still need to work on this particular aspect of my personality. It was the time when I discovered an amazing market in the nearby town, which can be visited only once a week. One can find there almost everything and in spite of the fact that the prices have also started increasing there, they are still competitive compared to other places and one can find there real treasures. It’s also difficult to see many people wearing those clothes in the streets, and even if we bump into someone wearing the same skirt, it won’t be on a massive scale. Last year I started buying loads of things in the second-hand shop, which was open in the vicinity of my house. It’s a kind of a shop which I can’t really leave without bags filled with unique clothes and accessories. Unfortunately, my wardrobes can’t get any bigger and it’s sometimes difficult to use all of my clothes regularly, that’s why I try to focus only on the items I truly need. Here are a few tips, which allowed me to find myself in this rather difficult world of fashion:
We don’t always know what we really like until the time we finally decide to try something on. Don’t reject a given thing at once, if you think you may look good in it. Sometimes we perceive some clothes as inappropriate because of our height, our figure flaws or the kind of looks we have, and we’re not always able to assess our own potential well.
- Be unique.
When I visit second-hand shops I always try to pick these clothes which look different and the ones which are unique. My colleagues often ask me where I bought a given piece of clothing, such as a sweater or a coat. Whenever I proudly admit that I bought a given thing at the market or at the second-hand shop, girls always laugh I should have pretended that I had bought everything in the most expensive boutique in the town, whereas I’m always proud of the fact that I’ve bought something eye-catching for real peanuts.
- Try to hide the parts of your body which don’t look good and present the ones which are beautiful instead.
Sometimes I observe beautiful girls wearing miniskirts, the girls whose figure requires another type of a skirt and the whole effect is unattractive. Nobody has a perfect body, but the trick is to choose the clothes in a way they could hide the major flaws of our figure and could highlight the aspects which are beautiful in us. If your knees don’t look too good, but your calves are outstanding, try to choose a little bit longer dresses or skirts which could hide your knees and present your calves well instead. The same rule applies to other parts of your body.
- Buy timeless clothes.
I usually don’t follow fashion or I start to like some clothes during the late season, when they are no longer that fashionable. Sometimes it has also happened that I stayed ahead of the current trends, buying something that wasn’t commonly available at that particular time. Despite the fact that I purchase quite a lot of clothes, it’s still not so easy for me to say goodbye to some of them. If I’ve got high quality clothes, I can wear them during a few following seasons. That’s why, it’s good to have some pieces of clothing which are always in fashion, the ones which are timeless or neutral, I think that totally unique clothes can also be a part of this category.
- Listen to yourself, treat other people’s comments with a grain of salt.
The most important for you is to like yourself and to feel comfortable in your own skin. Such a positive perception of yourself will truly boost your self-esteem. It’s so in my case. Since I can remember I never accepted my appearance and I could notice only these aspects which I found wrong or unattractive. It often didn’t match the reality and what other people thought about me in fact. Nowadays, I feel quite comfortable in my own skin, I’m not perfect, but I do like myself. Such a positive attitude has improved my mood and has made my contacts with other people much easier. We should remember that if we don’t love ourselves, we won’t be able to love other people. When it comes to other people’s comments we should treat them with a grain of salt, as everyone has a different taste. We shouldn’t ignore our close ones’ ideas, but we should also keep in mind that they may be simply wrong. For example, earlier this year I bought pink shoes fastened with a pink ribbon, my friend told me it must have looked rather ridiculous. Did I get offended? Not really. But why? Because I was sure that I looked good in them, and it turned out that shoes with ribbons instead of shoelaces are a real hit this year. Not only feminine, but also delicate.
There’s no single way to deal with fashion. Some people will love our outfits, and some not. Don’t try to satisfy everyone, as in turn you won’t satisfy anyone, and on the contrary, you will lose your healthy self-esteem and the feeling of your own uniqueness. Be yourself, enjoy the fact that you’re healthy and you can still conquer the world. And if you are not liked by this or that person, ask yourself a questions how important it is for you. When you find the right answers to your own questions, you’ll become a happier person one day.
See you around!
Comments: 18 replies added
I love these ideas! I always shop on a budget and only buy when things are on sale.
Oh my gosh you have some great finds here. I need to do some second hand shopping. Thanks for sharing this with all of us!
Second-hand clothes are always unique. They are beautiful items that are hard to find with someone else as opposed to the newly tailored clothes from boutiques. I am a fun of second-hand clothes due to their uniqueness. I am happy I'm not alone... haha..
I love these ideas! I am always on a budget but still want to get the most for my money and I love clothes! I;m a big fan of thrift stores myself.
Like you I do the same research to get the maximum result by spending little!
Many of the groups you mentioned are registered and you are right! I'm the top!
When shopping on a budget I usually hit up the charity shops. You never know what you might find. The majority of the items are in perfectly good condition & I've managed to find many pieces I've worn during meetings etc.
I super love your style wow!!! I can't believe you bought all of these amazing outfits on budget, amazing.
Nice outfits, girl! Buying timeless clothes is always a great idea. Little black dress, for example, that you can wear as a casual outfit during the day and turn it into a more formal one in the evening simply by accessorizing with some jewelleries and heels. Love your advice, "Don’t try to satisfy everyone, as in turn you won’t satisfy anyone." ~ Ola @ WanderWithOla
Great tips! I love your outfits. They are unique. And I totally agree with you, we can't please everyone. It's important to be confident and happy with how we feel and what we wear.
You made some valuable points there and you sure have eyes for the very best when it comes to making a choice.
Those are some pretty great outfits you have there. I like the skirt. I will have to show this to my daughter as she would be interested.
Your outfits are adorable! I really wish I could be better at thrifting.
I guess black suits on everyone and hence it is such a favorite of everyone. I agree with rest of the collections too.
Masz bardzo fajny styl i mi się podoba,szczególnie płaszczyki i sukienki. Swetry noszę baaardzo rzadko, jest mi w nich za gorąco. Zimą zdarzy się lekki sweterek, a jesienią i nawet przez cały rok sukienki. Często ubieram rzeczy z wyprzedaży, bardzo rzadko kupuję dobre markowe produkty bez obniżek (raz, dwa razy w roku). Żyjemy oszczędnie i dzięki temu stać nas np. na podróże. Z modą (co do sezonu) szłam kiedyś.. teraz idę z 'przyjemnością' przez życie! Fajny artykuł :) Z przyjemnością przeczytałam.
This is such a good post! It shows that we don't need to always buy something new, because we can recycle what we already have. I'm definitely spending less these days; fast fashion is not healthy for our planet or pockets.
I definitely agree. The person we need to please first and foremost is ourselves. So, wear whatever you feel like wearing, responsibly and confidently :)
We have some very elegant second hand shops near me, but I never have time to shop there. I also really need to thin out what I have. I am hoping to get rid of about 90% of everything in my house so I can start fresh in the next year or two. A little bit every day!