Visions, visions, visions are what has been hounding me for years. Projections of how my life would look like, where I would be, what I would do and how wonderful everything would be. The key word here is the word ‘would’ referring to my future on and on. I kept focusing on imaginary pictures, pictures which had nothing to do with who I was and with what I really desired at that time.
Focusing on what would happen in the future was constantly consuming my energy and time, making me even more frustrated and unhappy with what I had. Despite the fact that some people around me would think I was weird, as from their point of view I had gained this or that, even though they perceived it as something bigger than it was in reality. But in my mind, it wasn’t enough. All the time not what I theoretically wanted, because I couldn’t really get it.
The flash of intellect came when I had reached my 30s. To be honest, it turned out that I’ve got almost everything I really need. The only thing I regret now is wasting so much time, as the most important is here and now and not what I may not live to see.
That’s why, I started focusing only on the issues which are important for me here and now, as long as I can fulfill my dreams, the ones I desire the most. As long as I can change not only my life, but also the lives of the people around me, it’s certainly worth doing it.
What has the biggest value for me right now is:
– my family which I started appreciating quite recently;
– a small circle of good friends and close people around me;
– passion thanks to which I can constantly develop and improve the quality of my life.
These conclusions seem to be rather simple, but in my case it was a game-changing experience. Gratitude for what I have and what I will have in the future frees me of unnecessary bitterness, since I stopped imagining what could have possibly happened, and I focus on what I have and on how I can improve it.
Don’t be like me in the past, don’t create visions, which are better than reality, unless you are able to make them come true. Only if you can make them your own reality, the one you are a part of. Take good care of what’s here and now to gain what you desire most. Don’t put yourself down with what you can’t have, as most of the times it’s even not really worth it.
See you around!
Yours,
Passion Piece
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Yes, I love this! I always make sure to appreciate what I do have.
I am just now getting back into appreciating my close family and friends. This quarantine has taught and showed me that I didn't spend enough time appreciating them. Thanks for sharing!
This is so true. Mindset is everything. We can choose to chase our problems or our blessings!
Illusions and imaginations can help, but only if they inspire and not if they trap us away from reality. You hit the mark!
There was a day during quarantine last year that I got anxious and thought about the future. I cried a lot that night. But I resolved to appreciate my family and the time I have with them as well as to pursue my passions. I am happier.
It is so important to really take the time every day to express gratitude for the things that I have. I cannot wait for the opportunity to spend time with loved ones after the pandemic is over.
I've been working on gratitude lately and I have also realized I have everything I need. I recently turned 30 and I've come to realize that I do have everything I need right now to make me happy.
Well said! Sometimes focusing on what others have and what we don't is so detrimental. Great post.
The problem with setting big goals and dreaming big is that most of the times you don't set up a plan. Every dream is achievable, but you have to see which are the smaller steps you need to take in order to get to it.
I can totally relate to this. Especially now, when everything around us doesn't feel like what it's supposed be.
Just loved what you said! I know we realize the worth of few people and things quite late in our lives. But when we do, we become forever grateful about having them by our side❤️
Well, from where I know it ;) perhaps with their own feelings and experiences. Focusing on the here and now is a difficult art that I'm still learning. Thanks for very good article for reading.