The end of the year is always full of various blog articles related to a certain kind of summaries and plans for the future. I always tried to think everything over to the smallest detail, as by nature I’m a person who doesn’t like the element of surprise or at least a kind of surprises which sound like ‘a nasty nudge’ given by my fate. So during each New Year’s Eve I would think: ‘Yes, my life will turn upside down for the better tomorrow!’ And you know what? Nothing has ever changed. I didn’t get a dream job, I didn’t become a sportswoman, I didn’t find my prince charming. Why? Because as quickly as I planned my future, the same quickly I forgot about everything. After the New Year’s Eve I always came back to my old, safe routine, which made me feel suffocated again and I experienced a kind of life claustrophobia.
That’s why, this year I’m not going to make any resolutions, I won’t have any expectations towards my life. We can never plan everything in 100 %, as our reality is influenced by many factors, which are frequently surprising and difficult to predict, such as an illness, splitting up or losing one’s job. Besides this, if we expect too much, and after a few months we realize that nothing, completely nothing goes as we would like it to go, makes us feel bad, we lose our self-worth and self-confidence. To make matters worse, we start comparing ourselves with others, and especially with the ones, who are successful in their lives and finally we end on a couch in front of the telly, eating ice cream to find some solace and get rid off our sorrows. In this way we create a vicious circle, which will have a chance to change its course only somewhere close to the next New Year’s Eve.
Why should you torture yourself over this kind of things? Why should you bother? Why should you make your life even more difficult if it’s already not easy? If you answer these and some other questions, you’ll come to a conclusion that it’s worth pursuing your dreams, but you need to approach this issue in a different manner, and for sure look at some things from a different angle.
Once I heard some truly wise words, that only the dreams which are turned into goals with deadline are worth something. Maybe, it wasn’t said in this exact way, but I interpreted them in this particular way.
That’s why in 2020 I won’t become Miss Polonia, I won’t take part in Runnmageddon, I won’t meet Prince Charming and for sure I won’t move into a villa in the suburbs of Warsaw. However, I’ve got 3 defined goals for the upcoming year, I realize that it’s possible I won’t be able to fulfill all of them, but I also know that I’ll be for sure surprised by my life and I will also manage to obtain the things which I’ve never dreamed of.
- Buying an apartment, furnishing and decorating it.
- Making my passion a source of income or starting a part time job related to my interests.
- Settling down with someone, but not against my believes.
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Are you going to list your New Year’s resolutions in a traditional manner? Maybe you’d prefer to set a list of goals with a deadline instead? What are your experiences related to New Year’s resolutions?
See you around!
Yours,
Passion Piece
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I don't bother with resolutions. I just make a list of things I resolve not to do. Much easier ;)
I haven't made New Year's resolutions in many years. It's like they are set up to not succeed. I try more to make every morning a fresh start. And then periodically through the year re-evaluate.
surprisingly i didn't make new year resolution this year and it never crossed my mind to to so but at the same time, i have goals i want to accomplish, but i dont want it to be in such a way that i neglect other aspect of my life trying to fulfill two or three goal.. I undersant where you are coming from and i agree with you.. Have a Heavenly New Year and a Prosperous Year ahead.
I stopped doing New Year's Resolutions many years ago. I believe if you want to do something or change something you don't need to wait til Monday, the first of the month or a new year. You can do it now.
I've alway heard that a goal without a deadline is just a dream. It's so true that often people start a new year with huge dreams, but never actually put any action into achieving them. Good for you for setting goals and taking steps toward the life you want to live. Best wishes.
I didn't make New Years resolutions either. I think that it's better to work on our goals on a daily basis. It's all about attitude and discipline. I hope that you had a wonderful NYE!
I prefer to just set intentions and be more intentional with my goals. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us!
I love this so much! There are times to worry and makes decisions, and others to celebrate and feel free of everything else!
I love this post and will make my son read it who makes trouble at every party/event. Also I like your way of thinking and yes there is time for making decisions and time to just be lazy.
I've just given up on making resolutions. Instead, I'm focusing on ongoing personal development, growth and wellness.
I tend to stray away from super huge goals around this time of the year. If I need to make a bug change, I wont wait until New Years to start it.
I always stick to my resolutions, but I also make with the complete intention to exec them. I love the accomplishment aspect.
I personally love setting big goals, but love your perspective on this! Cheers to an amazing year and living our most authentic lives in 2020!
My experience is to not go crazy with my list in January, I actually just chose 1-2 things and I keep building as the year goes by. As soon as I make a habit I chose the next one.
I love this! I hope you fulfil all your goals :) Wishing you a Happy New Year.