The end of the year is always full of various blog articles related to a certain kind of summaries and plans for the future. I always tried to think everything over to the smallest detail, as by nature I’m a person who doesn’t like the element of surprise or at least a kind of surprises which sound like ‘a nasty nudge’ given by my fate. So during each New Year’s Eve I would think: ‘Yes, my life will turn upside down for the better tomorrow!’ And you know what? Nothing has ever changed. I didn’t get a dream job, I didn’t become a sportswoman, I didn’t find my prince charming. Why? Because as quickly as I planned my future, the same quickly I forgot about everything. After the New Year’s Eve I always came back to my old, safe routine, which made me feel suffocated again and I experienced a kind of life claustrophobia.
That’s why, this year I’m not going to make any resolutions, I won’t have any expectations towards my life. We can never plan everything in 100 %, as our reality is influenced by many factors, which are frequently surprising and difficult to predict, such as an illness, splitting up or losing one’s job. Besides this, if we expect too much, and after a few months we realize that nothing, completely nothing goes as we would like it to go, makes us feel bad, we lose our self-worth and self-confidence. To make matters worse, we start comparing ourselves with others, and especially with the ones, who are successful in their lives and finally we end on a couch in front of the telly, eating ice cream to find some solace and get rid off our sorrows. In this way we create a vicious circle, which will have a chance to change its course only somewhere close to the next New Year’s Eve.
Why should you torture yourself over this kind of things? Why should you bother? Why should you make your life even more difficult if it’s already not easy? If you answer these and some other questions, you’ll come to a conclusion that it’s worth pursuing your dreams, but you need to approach this issue in a different manner, and for sure look at some things from a different angle.
Once I heard some truly wise words, that only the dreams which are turned into goals with deadline are worth something. Maybe, it wasn’t said in this exact way, but I interpreted them in this particular way.
That’s why in 2020 I won’t become Miss Polonia, I won’t take part in Runnmageddon, I won’t meet Prince Charming and for sure I won’t move into a villa in the suburbs of Warsaw. However, I’ve got 3 defined goals for the upcoming year, I realize that it’s possible I won’t be able to fulfill all of them, but I also know that I’ll be for sure surprised by my life and I will also manage to obtain the things which I’ve never dreamed of.
- Buying an apartment, furnishing and decorating it.
- Making my passion a source of income or starting a part time job related to my interests.
- Settling down with someone, but not against my believes.
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Are you going to list your New Year’s resolutions in a traditional manner? Maybe you’d prefer to set a list of goals with a deadline instead? What are your experiences related to New Year’s resolutions?
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