What is happiness? Can it be measured? How about setting its reasonable boundaries? I’m pretty sure that at the time when you were children you believed that one day you would become great inventors or stunning actresses posing for pictures on the red carpet … that’s obvious that some of you have managed to succeed in that matter, but a great majority, somewhere there on the way, have forgotten about their own desires and childhood dreams. What made us leave them so easily? Growing up, different life circumstances or maybe lack of self-confidence? There may be a great number of reasons for such a state of affairs and that’s more than certain that if we resign from our dreams, we partly resign from ourselves. It’s possible not to be aware of that problem for years, but at some point, totally unexpectedly, it will come back to us just like a boomerang. Will we then be able to say why we have resigned from matters, which were or still are important for us?
Misdirected life paths can always be changed, but unfortunately, many of us forget about it or are simply scared of taking this possibility into account. Why does it happen? We like what we know, what we can easily predict and what gives us a relative stability in our lives. However, is it true that an old enemy is better than the new one? It usually looks worse than it really is and our fear is just one of many aspects which we should work on to gain much more than just a minimum in our lives.
Now you probably keep thinking that I want to play smart and I’m trying to palm my writing off on you. Well, I also love stabilization and I also have fear of new things. When I was a teenager, I didn’t have dreams which would be specified. I thought it would be enough to graduate from the university and get a job to be relatively happy … and somewhere there, in between learning and working, it would be good to set up my own family and give birth to some kids.
Well, the things which I have managed to do so far include receiving a degree at the university and getting a job … however, I noticed quite quickly that a person of an average intelligence – who isn’t satisfied with just eating and drinking, and maybe satisfying physiological needs from time to time – has a desire to develop in the field related to his or her passion, something which makes him or her happy.
In my case it turned out that I love writing and that I could really do it full-time, as it brings me lots of joy and excitement. In addition, thanks to not necessarily well-chosen studies, I got to know English satisfactory enough to write texts for a broader audience, since English is a language used by millions of people in the world, regardless of the place where they live or work. That way, I started doing something which I like and something I am really passionate about. I also started taking more care of myself, because that’s what this is all about – first of all we need to like and respect ourselves to expect others to have the same feelings towards us. Well, you won’t believe … but thanks to changing my inner attitude towards myself and improving the way I look (I’m not really thinking of plastic surgeries and injecting every centimeter of my body with strange substances and claiming that everything I have gained I owe to a beetroot diet …) people perceive me as a better person and they are more willing to spend their time with me.
A great way to meet new and inspiring people is to carry out interviews with them. Each conversation makes me feel that I want more and I want stronger … and my ambition is to make well-known people, and not only, fight to appear on the pages of my website. In the meantime, during the past year I have managed to improve my writing skills and make more people decide to visit my blog … which isn’t really that easy without any outside support.
Doing what I like resulted in many good things, I started slowly gaining more, especially in the areas of my interest. I’m more self-confident and others perceive me as such. I take care of my look and I get people’s attention. I hang out with my friends and acquaintances more often, thanks to which I get more motivation to work on myself and on my blog. People are also more willing to give me a helping had, as they see a partner to work in me. I’m slowly developing in what I love and I don’t care that much what others think about me – as long as they don’t offer me any constructive criticism. It’s worth remembering that we will never know everything and it’s a great idea to learn from more experienced people, and draw inspirations from the ones who support us and the ones who want only the best for us.
At the end of this preachy text, I’d like to tell you that you are SOMEONE, that’s why I’m going to quote the lyrics of one of Rihanna’s songs – shine bright like a diamond – thanks to such an attitude people will fall in love with you and will be more willing not only to get to know you, but also to understand the matters which are truly important for you.
Remember to ask yourself these questions before going to sleep:
- Are you happy?
- What can you do for yourself to become happy? (only if you are not)
- When will you start fighting for yourself?
- How will you pass your knowledge to others?
See you around!
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Comments: 40 replies added
This is good! We have to make it our right to be happy and do something about it.
We should never forget about our right to be happy, only then we can make our dreams come true! :)
I try to always be happy. I find being unhappy is too draining. I think someone always has something they can be grateful for.
That's very true! We should focus more on the positives rather than the negatives. :)
meeting and interviewing new people I always enjoy! I find it as a learning process on both sides that can be very inspiring!
Interviewing people gives us a great opportunity to meet very valuable people, indeed! :)
Currently happy and hopefully most of the people do as well. I hope they understand that that feeling is not permanent. It'll pass so continue fighting!
Our life is full of ups and donws, we should remember about that for sure. :)
Yes this topic is everything to me! A persons happiness and quality of life means everything and can influence everything
The happier we are the more open-minded we are! That makes us more likely to gain success. :)
This is a pretty inspiring post to read. I guess everybody has the right to be happy. I can relate to all of this.
I'm happy to hear that this post has been useful for you. :)
I think that society is teaches us to be unhappy, once we grow up. I love surrounding myself with inspiring people and going to different creative events. I find the inspiration I get from there motivating me towards new dreams that make me happy.
If we are surrounded by inspiring people it's much easier to gain more for us. :)
Happiness is also, very much of a conscious decision! Loved your article!
Sometimes we don't really know that it can be a conscious decision. :)
I really enjoyed reading your post. It really puts things in perspective. Those questions you suggested we ask ourselves at the end of the day are powerful.
I'm happy to hear that you liked these questions! I think they can be really helpful! :)
Such a motivating and positive post. I always stay happy and don't think about negativity surrounding me.
It's better not to focus on the negativity too much, as it can have a negative influence on our lives as such! :)
such an inspirational post! find happiness!
Hope I'll find it one day! :)
I never took writing seriously. I used to just spread out my thoughts and messages once in a while. People requested me to start writing and I did only 2 or 3 posts a year on social media and then blog. Recently I started being serious about it. I am loving writing now and it is a good way to interact with people.
That's great that you got to like writing for public. :) I'd love my writing to become my own business in the future. :)
I love this, it was like a pep talk I needed to hear. Kudos to you for finding your passion and pursuing a path that makes you the happiest.
Thank you! I'm currently working on making my blog even better. :)
I love reading about people who do what they love. I aspire the same ability - writing is a passion and I love it.
Do your best and become the best version of yourself! :)
Happiness is different for each person. What works for one person may not work for the next person.
That's true, that's why we should foster our uniqueness and be proud of it whenever we can. :)
Honestly I love being happy no one wants to be or be Aron d a negative nancy. It’s all about what you put out into the world.
We tend to remember positve people who brought something in our lives. :)
Having a positive outlook will instill happiness for sure. I tried this myself and I try to stay happy always
That's very true that staying positive can totally change our lives. :)
Being a positive person and always focusing on the light is always important. Very heartfelt. xo ~ Sheree
Thank you! Kisses! :)
I think that happiness is a choice and we become truly happy with our selves if we learn to accept that there are some things we cannot change, and that's okay. :) I try to shine bright like a diamond everyday, even if life can get a little bit hard sometimes. :)
I had problems with accepting the fact that my life isn't a bed of roses all the time. I'm dealing with negative issues much better now. :)
We are all product of happiness, so it is illogical to think that we happiness is a right. We all have it in our being, sometimes we just forget we have it all.
You're right, people often don't remember that they can be happy and how they can be happy. :)