Gratitude is a term which is well-known to most of us, but what does it really mean? According to a definition provided by PWN dictionary a grateful person ‘ has warm feelings towards his/her well-doer, wants to thank for all the goodness received and wants to return it to the benefactor’. What if we are not grateful to ourselves for what we have? For sure such an attitude causes a number of adverse changes in the way we approach ourselves and the surrounding world. In consequence lack of gratitude doesn’t allow us to set ourselves free from negative emotions, which make us focus mostly on our failures or on blaming others for our sorrows. However, it’s worth remembering that most of the situations depend on us and the way we’re going to handle them.
Some time ago I had a chance to take part in workshops, which were carried out by a professional coach Patrycja Dorsz Vel Drożdż, who is also the author of a website called Ms Mediator. During her lectures she touched upon topics, which were really close to my heart … such as strength and femininity, which against all appearances don’t exclude themselves. During one of such meetings I had an opportunity to listen to a special guest – Jolanta Górniak, who is a mental coach and a chairwoman of a fund called A self-confident woman. She was talking about gratitude … and it wasn’t really a coincident, as Ms Jolanta is also the author of a book titled A Gratitude Journal.
What is the above mentioned A Gratitude Journal? You’ll probably think that the author shares there detailed accounts of everything she is grateful for … you couldn’t be further from the truth!
During her lecture, Ms Jolanta Górniak mentioned the influence of gratitude on her life and how she had learned that skill. However, she didn’t really create this journal to bore you to death with all these airy-fairy and idealized descriptions of other people’s successes. It’s a kind of a coursebook, in the pages of which you are given tasks, which are meant to make it easier for you to be grateful not only for big achievements, but also for the smallest values you can find in yourself and in the surrounding world. I truly loved this short lecture, because the coach beamed with inner peace and happiness. I was truly lucky, since I received A gratitude Journal as a gift from its author. I’m going to try the exercises included in the book on myself. The tasks are planned for 60 days during which I’m supposed to act exactly as I am asked to in the exercises. After completing this period, I’ll start writing this journal myself.
What do I expect to gain after finishing this experiment? A short list:
- positive feelings towards myself and the surrounding world;
- ease of mind;
- higher resistance to difficult situations;
- more optimism and increased self-esteem;
- being less focused on myself and my own problems;
- more energy to take up new actions;
- better time-management;
- more productivity accompanied by obtaining my objectives;
- being able to make autonomous decisions more often.
Due to some obvious reasons, I don’t want to reveal too much when it comes to the exercises themselves. Their basic task is to make you able to notice the reasons in yourself and the surrounding world to be happy and grateful. All these efforts accompanied by your consistent actions can tremendously improve the standard of your life in many important areas related to your family, friends, and professional career. And who knows? Maybe thanks to such a training you will find your undiscovered talents, and in consequence you’ll see lots of new prospects for the future? I encourage you to reach for A Gratitude Journal and share your experiences with me and my readers.
See you around!
(The book hasn’t been translated into English, however you can find lots of templates on the Internet and use them instead.)